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brutus101
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April 23, 2010 - 02:22 am
CNTRYBOYINTX06: You obviously deserve someone better than the guy you described. People lie, cheat, and they leave. Happens everyone. It’s part of growing up and it will just make you a better person.......and for the guy who said stupid, can you please lighten up.
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brutus101
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April 23, 2010 - 02:15 am
What are you talking about?
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leggo
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February 07, 2010 - 11:13 am
That’s the stupidest thing I’ve ever heard. So you believe in 100% a recitivism rate? Then there’s not much hope for humanity.
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mustangboi21
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December 24, 2009 - 02:53 am
Its alright, im here...wanna chat..?
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brutus101
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July 23, 2009 - 11:09 pm
Most of us have experienced a broken heart. It sucks, it doesn’t go away when you want it. You may suffer from mild to severe depression, eat lots of ice cream and 20 lbs later, you are still hurting.
I too have dated a piece of shit, no good, son of a bitch, who is indecisive. He was only good for1 thing...screwing.
My solution to my heart ache:
-Join a fitness club
-If no gyms around, buy some dumbels
-Watch Brokeback Mountain and let your tears out
-Watch stand up comedies
-Surround yourself with people with positive energy
-Get a full body massage (and some happy ends)
-Project a successful image and you will attract people
-Do not try too hard
-Play hard to get (because good men with a good heart love challenge)
-If all else fails, see a psychiatrist and get him/her to prescribe some antidepressants
I hope this helps to my fellow men who was involved with cheaters and liars
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westvirginian
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June 07, 2009 - 03:27 pm
Money doesn’t buy love and if your ex left you for money, he is a shallow person who doesn’t deserve to have a man like you to work3 jobs. Were you doing that just to make him happy? I hope not. My sincere condolences on the loss of your sister. How insenstive of your ex to leave you in your time of sorrow and need. My wish for you is that you find someone with a true heart who you are compatible with that will love you for you and not for the bread you bring to the table. God Bless You!
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cowboybann
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May 16, 2009 - 08:43 am
Let me tell you a quick story of a man i met on a chat line. Not this1 though i will give this1 a chance. I met this guy quite a bit younger then myself. He had to chat everyday we hit it off quite well. Then he tells me he wants more communication. He lives 400 miles way so i get him a cell fone and put it on my acct. I even drive the distance to be with him on valentines day.Bought him all kinds of new clothes and [email] weeks after i return he decides he just wants to text and not call. I got offended and had the fone shut off. He emailed and begged to hve it turned bck on. My mistake i fell hard for this guy. Through months of beggin and pleading for just a fone call he informs me hewas bi curious and has a girlfriend and baby on the way. Thiswas after he tells me he loves me an wants to move in this fall. He tore my heart out. But he breaks the news by E MAIL. Much more in between but you get my point. Honest men are hard to find
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cowboybann
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January 06, 2009 - 04:58 pm
i just had a similar situation the only difference is moved to be with this person.1 month after i movet he decided i was to boring and he decided he didnt wat to be with me I am a home body and because i didnt want to hang at bars every night i guess he was bored i am just as happy with someone on the horse or in the house so now i m looking to find another place to move. i know there is a real man out there for us both. oh yeah his problem is hes is 18yr younger than i am never another young1 thanx buddy contact me sometime we can chat
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cowboyocala
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October 22, 2008 - 10:29 pm
I was listenin to a Gary Allen song the other day,that said, youll never be able to see tommorrow, lookin back at yesterday.That applies so well with me.I had a friend and lover fer 12 years.It was the perfect relationship.It ended1 day, with him , leavin me a dear John note, after he had drained all our personal and business accounts.But even today, i have frogiven him , and think of the best in the relationship,but will never allow him back in my life. This is the other side of the sword, it was so good,im havin a difficult time, with the new gay culture.Noone believes in Monogamy anymore, and its a vice fer me.
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horseman2004
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October 01, 2008 - 03:24 pm
well bailyandboots you said a mouth full.been down the same road and it always ends up the way you always thought it would. that little voice inside your head is never wrong. keep on track and keep loving everyday as if it was your last but dont let some man fool you into thinking hes a changed man. they are usually thing with the wrong head if you catch my drift.
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kyhorseman69
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September 27, 2008 - 12:19 am
Well my lover of 20 years has decided to leave me for a MWM (man with money). I have busted my ass working 3 jobs during our relationship and he says it was not enough.
My sister passed away today and although my ex said he would stay with me to get through this he has taken off with his new boyfriend again. They say they don't want to hurt me...be for real...too late I am already hurt and devastated now
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thill
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June 21, 2008 - 02:07 am
I have to agree totally on this even though ppl may be far and away they are always there for you, even though they might not be able to be there all the time... You have to trust ur heart and if it says something good do it otherwise need not mind it.
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hayman
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June 18, 2008 - 08:45 pm
I know what it is to be lied to. My EX says he is now with the man he has been in love with for the last 12 years....must have lied to me everday for a year and a half and lied to that other guy that he was going to go spend the weekend with in April when I figured out what was going on and confronted him about it he blamed me.
Now for the dumbest part...since he was trashing me for months to all his friends he could have really played with victim by telling the truth but he claims he finally had enough of me and got the guts to leave.
Now, the real truth of the matter doesn't paint me in the best light at all, but here it is. I kicked his ass out of the motel room while we were at the OKC rodeo at 4:00 in the morning when we were over 100 miles from home. I didn't give a damn if he had anyplace to go or not. I was just tired of the lies, bad attitude, and blaming me for everything he didn't get do or have in his life. He didn't even have a job for over a year but always had money, the car and truck he wanted, gas, food, car insurance, cell phone, new tools, and clothes. Booting his but out like that away from home doesn't make me look too good does it but I will man up to what I did.
Sometimes if people would just be willing to tell the truth, whatever it is, they would be better off. And now the newest rumor is that I am back with another ex and that I made out with someone in public and totally embaressed him. Not with my ex...we parted as friends and are friends now. Didn't make out...a big hug and a kiss on the cheek from a friend that I have known for 20 years and don't see very often. We were both single dads and our daughters rode horses together and the2 of us grew up only 8 miles away and our parents knew each other.
Well, I can only say that the truth is much worse than the fiction. I made the right choice and feel sorry for the next guy.
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cntryboyintx06
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June 15, 2008 - 09:59 am
Hey guys,
Thanks for all the feedback and help on this matter. Well it has been a year now since we have been togather or even talked. To tell the truth i dont feel bad at all and feel quite better because we arent togather. I have moved on in my life and talked to more guys out there. I have1 that im currently talking to that i hope things work out between us. But after all that has happened in the past i dont want to jump to any conclusions or hope that things work out. I did the same thing with the ex and we see where it is now. I am just thankful that he showed his true self in the begnining and we werent like into3 years of relationship and then it all come out. I think that it would have been alot worse if that would have happened. Well i hope everyone in here doesnt have to go through it again or at all. Again thank you for all your help and feedback. Yall guys have a good1.
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siouxcityboy
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June 07, 2008 - 08:42 pm
Bailey is right on! You might be able to forgive a horse for dumping you, or a dog for wandering off, cause he thinks he knows better, when that dog finds his way back he will usually stick close to you for the rest of his life. The wayward fella however is a different story. When he returns it's not because he loves ya, it's because he needs something he thinks he can get from you. Usually not your love, usually it's a roof, and money, and a place to hang his hat until he wanders off again. The best thing is to get on with your life, cut the drifter loose, and find a dude that's willing to hang with ya.
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prosilk
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June 04, 2008 - 01:56 pm
I think the biggest gift you can give to someone who cheated on you is forgiveness. I know its hard to do that when your heart is broken but there is a reason why they cheat. It aint because they are pigs, its because they got some issues and wont face them like real men would. Its hard to admit to yourself when you cant say no to a hot guy that wants sex. Whats even harder is for the guy that cheated to admit the truth to you. I know. I have been there. Years ago, I cheated too but I did it because my bf wasn't having sex with me. I broke down crying my ass off and told him the truth. It wasn't easy for me but all I had was my dignity and it was important to me. My good friend told me to be a man and tell him the truth so I did it. It was the hardest thing to do but I felt better about it and never did it again. Funny thing was he cheated on me too but didnt tell me the truth. I guess I deserved that1 for cheating but I was man enough to tell him. We are not together anymore but I learned more about myself than ever. Facing what I did made me grow up and accept responsibility for what I did. So my point here, cheating doesnt come from the heart, it comes from people who dont know what they want and get confused sometimes about themselves. Love makes you endure the pain but it can also hurt you when you have to face the truth. Men who face the truth are men who are strong in themselves.
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seeker2001
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April 22, 2008 - 03:44 am
see you on gay dar...same nic...Australia...Queensland...Rockhampton to Cairns
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seeker2001
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April 17, 2008 - 04:15 am
Mate just think of it as their loss, your better off without those types anyway. But1 things for sure, mate if you were mine!! Well lets just say I'd do everything in my pwer to make you happy. Feel like a visit to Australia?? Don't give up hope..
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cliffinmabank
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April 03, 2008 - 12:08 pm
sorry dude , but once a cheater always a cheater. don't kid yourself
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cliffinmabank
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April 03, 2008 - 12:06 pm
sorry dude i know how ya feel, good luck with a good1
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baileynboots
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January 31, 2008 - 07:51 pm
cntry- Nonsense! Love and honesty are NOT too much to ask for,they are qualities that should be expected,by both. If youre still thinking of spending time with this guy,just remember you been down that road already and have a pretty good idea whats at the end of it. If someone chooses to walk out of your life once,let em go. There are good folks who end up with good folks,and the rest are best left to chase their own tails.Dont ignore that little voice inside,its the1 that aint lying to ya.
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behrcowboy
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January 30, 2008 - 04:52 pm
Forgiveness is not a sign of weakness, but a sign of good character. You don’t stop loving because of some1 else’s flaws, you love them in spite of them. Do what your heart tells you to do, but listen with your brain. Know when to walk away, and more important, know when to run like hell.
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simonsays1
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January 27, 2008 - 04:22 pm
EVERY STORY HAS AN END, BUT IN LIFE EVERY END IS JUST A NEW BEGINING. Having a hard time myself but i am tgrying to treat everyday as a new begining.
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reiner
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January 26, 2008 - 04:57 pm
Hey 'chillipepper' I think you have to really look at who your giving your trust to and it shouldn't just be given it should be earned. Sometimes we10d to jump in with both feet and then act surprised when it goes sour. In hind site do you see maybe you missed the warning signs?? If you dont give your heart and trust again, your the1 that losses, hate to see that! Guess we need to learn and be smarter. Good luck.
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cntryboyintx06
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January 22, 2008 - 09:18 pm
Well i think that we can love again and we can trust again. In my opinion i think that the next person is going to have to prove them selves and its going to take longer then it did with the last person. Cause you are constantly going to worry is this person going to do the same thing like my ex did. I think you are correct honesty and true love is to much to ask for. I personally think that it has to do with honesty. Most arent wanting to be honest and all they want is1 thing and nothing else. I hope that everyone that has posted here and will post in the future finally finds that right person, the1 that will give them true love and be 100% honest with you. I know it takes alot out of you and you are afraid to date again. We just all have to stay strong and help each other out. I do thank those out there that are nice and can talk to them. Thank ya all!
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vatovakero
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January 22, 2008 - 03:13 pm
Well! in my opinion, doest not exist broken hearts, i think that each experience make me stroger! really, our hurt in our heart is our capacity to give LOVE...
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chillipepper
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January 22, 2008 - 12:09 pm
Oh wow! I'm sorry to hear! Thats exactly what in going thou right now!Ive only ever asked for 2 things, True Love & Honest Respect!! seems its just to much to ask! I cant stand the pain anymore, so am i ruined for love ever again? can I trust ever again?
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brsetme
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January 22, 2008 - 01:01 am
Never had an ex and never been in a relationship but i guess the1 thing i think about is what is important to me and how far will i go to be in a relationship with someone who does not want to give himself completely to me as i do him. Should you compromise your values to be with someone that cant make up their mind with what they want and how important is trust, honesty and commimment to you? Communication is the key and respest is only1 of the factors to being happy.
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cntryboyintx06
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January 22, 2008 - 12:04 am
Well from the first post that i did about my ex. Well after about lets see 6 months give or take he has come back around and started talking to me again. He wants to start hanging out again and go do things togather. I mean he was my first date and person that i liked. I know there are more to come and i have time but what should i do? I hate it when guys want to cheat and then come back around either when they finally figure out they made the mistake or no1 else will take them. For those who have been cheated on my sympathy goes out to ya all. Hope someone has some imput to help me out. Thanks yall.
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reiner
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January 05, 2008 - 08:08 pm
Oh man, could I swap stories with you on that subject. 18 years of it... guess that makes me the idiot not him.
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vanmorel
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January 05, 2008 - 01:57 pm
I'm numb at the moment... but on top of that I think Im tired of trying. I have been lied to and lied to and lied to .... I dont think anyone would know the truth if it bit them in the butt. I didnt' think Honest, Careing and Sincere was too much to ask for. It seems I'm wrong.
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bull888
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October 15, 2007 - 08:40 pm
well try this! I wait on the guy for3 yrs on the enternet to find out he was married with2 kids, forgave him and after6 years found out he was cheating on me. And not to mention thousands of dollars later. Heart! forget it! Id rather have peace, friends and FUN! To all U cheaters out there! IN TIME YOUR GAME WILL CATCH UP WITH YA!
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cntryboyintx06
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August 29, 2007 - 12:00 am
Ex
Some guys dont grow up. He has never grown up and never will. He doesnt know what he wants and until that he figures that out he aint never gonna have anyone. I hate because he lied to me the whole time. Thats what heart the most and still does till this day.
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